It would be ignorant to categorise people into different groups of people, but for argument’s sake, I wanted to explain why lone wolves are often much more successful than sheep.
A lone wolf is someone that prefers to be alone, I like to go out alone most of the time, I prefer to work on my own things and I like to deal with things alone.
When I was younger I got strange looks when I said that I don’t follow football, right now I barely watch movies, I will do it for my kids/wife sometimes, I don’t watch soaps on TV, I don’t watch spectator sports, I don’t watch politics or the news. I don’t like following crowds and I don’t like going to tourist attractions for this reason.
Doing things alone means
I had to learn more
I have way more time and flexibility to adapt and change
I don’t need to follow sports, or politics etc, saves a lot of time. (i know you will get lone wolves following trends/fashions but he will likely watch/travel alone and its a lot more efficient and less time consuming
I am not influenced by clueless friends, we give a lot of weight to what friends tell us, but it’s very unlikely they aren’t biased and aren’t the best expert in the area they are advising you on. Outsiders can be more honest, less biased, less likely to have an agenda or blow smoke up your ass, which is very dangerous. I see people asking parents for advice on business and all sorts of matters, that’s very dangerous unless your dad is a leading expert in that area.
We can change our direction anytime we want, new business, new careers, we don’t have friends alongside us.
We have more time being alone at home, we can learn why we travel, choose different loan wolf friends that are comfortable meeting/working with other lone wolves.
Lone wolves attract lone wolves, they are stronger and more independent, which inspires and rubs off.
We are not shackled by others limiting believes, dragged down by there poor life management, lack of human understanding, poor morals or ethics.
I can pick and choose many different friends in different areas that are on top of their game and they are all lone wolves that need little maintenance like myself.
Sheep need a lot of time, help and hand-holding. They have probably read and learned less because they like to “hang out” with other sheep.
Not one criminal started at a high level on the first day, we are all gradually influenced into things slowly, this goes for drugs, crime and all the other “bad things”. This is a group of friends that influences us and each other, it’s a collective force of peer pressure and thinking it’s ok if everyone else around you is doing it. It’s easy to manipulate people if you can manipulate the group around them, it’s frightening when you learn it all and you can see it in action. Just watching rumours or comments in peoples videos on youtube is fascinating, you can really see how peoples minds are influenced in such weird ways. But the lone wolf can be more free-thinking, stronger and more immune to group influence. There is a crypto scam in Pattaya right now, its not even a crypto, it pretends to be one and its a pyramid scheme, a huge group of guys are acting cult-like, trying to rope others in to save there skin, they were roped in using their greed, which made them weak. Now they are fully committed and stay in denial about what they have lost. The influence they have all had on each other, which the professional scammers stay at the top and protected, they went after credible/known people here, which tend to be business owners.
The positivity that you can get from a group of friend is insane also, the more I see we are influenced by others, the more I am frustrated and upset seeing people turning out bad when I know they could easily do much better, just one speech, one book or one conversation with someone like me and I could explain how we are influenced so easily, and it’s our job to get ourselves in front of the right influence!
Many successful people are on youtube telling everyone to follow their passion.
The theory is great, we follow our passion and it means we don’t have to work again. (or at least it doesn’t feel like it) We do a great job at what we enjoy, we over-deliver, we put extra hours in, we are passionate, we get more fulfilment, proud and it shows.
Most of the people who say you should follow your passion have already made it financially, they can now afford to follow their passion, because we all want to express ourselves and many are unable to until they retire. As soon as people are financially free, they have the luxury to follow their passion for a few years and stumble across a way to monetise there efforts, a lot of hobbies/interests do not have clear ways of making money and its a long road.
If you have skills and a clear way of monetising your passion, then you should definitely follow your passion, but if your passion was a town (like I was passionate about Pattaya, Thailand) then making money from it was a long and slow process, because I had to move there, learn many skills and try many different businesses within the town. Now that I have been living in Pattaya 12 years, I have an edge.
I find it easier for most people to find a job they dislike but good pay. (because most people do not like the risk and anxiety of starting a business or being self-employed) If you can follow the money for a 35 hour a week job and you can work your passion after your shift every day or within it, then this is the less risk-free but slower way of doing it. But it does take a long time to build up a steady and decent income.
I have met tons of guy that have grafted at work, fixed houses up after work and then retire and live off property rentals in the 40-50 year age bracket. Money is a trade of time now for fun in the future, we have all worked horrible jobs and done things we didn’t want to do.
I love what I do but I am aware that the stress it can bring and other issues, I do not want to rely on it forever, so I can invest in stocks and shares and not so much what I am passionate about. So I will have a mix of both, following my passion helping people become better versions of themselves but investing in the companies that I understand and that will pay well.
How to help someone “fix” themselves. (becoming a better version of themselves)
As part of trying to help those around me for friendship, business and to feel good. I have learnt to understand people, their problems and trying to help them find ways out. This is what makes me a good coach/mentor because I am learning none stop. I learnt the following from a clinical psychologist. I have made this page as notes for me to come back to later, and maybe other people will save this link.
Do they want to sort themselves out?
Start by listening to what they have to say
Let them talk about their concerns and outline what the potential solutions would be
Don’t offer much advice
Don’t steal their accomplishment from them, it may interfere with the probability of them implementing the solution for continued success
Ask them what they don’t feel is right about their life, let people talk about their problems
They will complain about more things than they are upset or resentful about because they have gathered up irritation, aggravations and fears that have been unspoken about, and that will have been upsetting them emotionally, but they may not know why they have been upsetting them emotionally until they articulate them, that have been some may resist because they do not want to burden you with their problems but they need to get it off their chest. They need to get their cards on the table, some people might struggle to find reasons why they are suffering from problems, you need to be patient even if it holds accusations about you. They will take 60-70% of the cards off the table straight away, leaving the genuine problems left.
Ask them what a solution might look like? If they say they don’t know, they might not want to think about it, they might need some pressure or encouragement to vision what the solution would look like to solve the problem, maybe they need to think about some small steps towards a solution.
What could you do this week that will make that problem slightly better? Whats practical, maybe a few ideas needed to work towards finishing the problem may help.
How can we simplify the problem?
What will a solution look like that they will find successful?
What would the strategies be to attain that solution?
Maybe the less painful solution to start with? They need to make some small steps that will make things less horrible than they currently are.
They need the humility to accept they don’t have a solution, the willingness to face the problem, the willingness for others to formulate the problem, let them decide on their own solutions to change their character, it will take a lot of patience to let them stumble across a solution. It doesn’t matter what you know about fixing the problem, if you give advice there is a certain element of theft from that.
What are their resentments, are they expecting someone to change? Do they want themselves to change? Someone to learn? Do they just want to express themselves?
They should be aiming at medium to long term peace
My Visit to North Korea, my observations as a bias Western ignorant tourist and what the world can learn from NK
I wanted to do a daily trip report but I felt that there wasn’t enough happening, as we were only seeing the roads for hours and some statues. I decided to write up my thoughts and add pictures in groups, I don’t feel the interest is enough to spend many days of adding all the info to the pictures and getting everything in order.
Before I start my thoughts I want to mention that there will be a lot of ignorance in my opinions because we all show some level of ignorance offering opinions without a deep unbiased study of what we are judging, but I came to observe with as little bias as I could and be as neutral as I can, but you could argue I have a western bias and as a business owner, a bias in capitalism. I know very little about the leadership, history, war, I am more interested in psychology and seeing alternative lifestyles and what we can learn from it, or maybe it will help me appreciate my own situation more, because we all need to practise gratitude daily, and sometimes we forget the freedom that we have in the west. (even though I live in Thailand and in many ways we are freer here than the west, but less free to express ourselves against leadership)
I also want to mention that the guides I spoke to had limited English and they didn’t always understand me. I would never attack any country, I believe all nations are as good and bad as each other. We are just better or worst in different areas, bad men can only exist by good men staying quiet, so I don’t always pass the blame onto people in full. We are all humans, we have the same wiring for survival, we are habit forming for survival, being bad is bad for survival, sharing and caring is a good foundation for survival and longevity.
I could sensationalise my trip report to attract the masses, I have seen so many people write clickbait titles about North Korea, twisting things and saying what they want about being spied on, I understand the need for attention, but by putting people off coming here you are actually supporting a system in place opposed to going against it, the more people that come to NK the faster they will become free. My report will disappoint many people looking for drama, but I am very sure it will attract many to go and see for themselves.
First I wanted to dispel any things I heard about NK before I came.
People say it’s not safe, it seems very safe here, probably due to harsh punishments, but the problem is, if something bad happens, you cannot run to the media and get attention or justice, in fact, you cannot contact anyone here, you rely on the police/army/guides which I felt like I trusted.
There are two telephone systems, one for foreigners and one for locals, you cannot contact each other
We can only go where our itinerary says, they have to phone for permission to change things, we can only go to certain places, we cannot stop and go anywhere. This means only the places on the itinerary that is pre-approved. This makes it very tough to communicate with local people,, have access to them or even meet other westerns in different hotels. I think this is partly due to so many rules and regulations opposed to hiding/controlling us.
There is only good news here, and it seems to be weekly. The bad news is all international at the end of the local good news. The Pyongyang Times has only good news of achievements and bad news about the US and Japan at the end of it. This means that the world wide web will always have to be blocked providing they want to keep up this narrative, the intranet is heavily controlled to stop this system being breached. I must admit that despite owning our own news company, I do not watch any news, I don’t see the benefit in knowing the bad news, but the media does have a purpose, without the media there is no one to turn to when the police/law hasn’t solved a matter fairly. Also, society should be aware of what problems they face, on the other hand, if you don’t give out bad news, you won’t give out ideas and you can raise the expectations of everyone. Monkey see monkey do is a great analogy of what happens in real life, if we only see good things, maybe we will only do good things?
Arch Triumph, Pakyon Waterfall, Janam Hill
The army here in the neighbourhoods don’t have real bullets?
I asked why there were army guys at villages as we drove past because I was told almost no crime, I was told they were all training and didn’t have real bullets. Maybe I wasn’t understood, maybe she thought I meant something else or maybe they are lied to.
We had to eat separately from the guides and we can’t hang out with them, Koreans believe in only marrying their own blood, this may be to prevent relationships forming, not that they can continue to contact the outside world. People on the internet say the guides are here to spy on us and follow us around…. The guides are translators, organise everything for us, its not easy here with almost no transportation, so you need a driver and guides to help you, with no internet, little available online, almost no road signs and not knowing where to go, you need guides here to take you around, organise, translate and to help you when you need something, its not like many cities where you can just rock up, find a taxi, use google maps and find a 7eleven, exchanges and go to ATMs…. There are no ATMs here and no visa/MasterCard.
There is smart looking security in black at all statues, one guy in the day and two guys at night, they from the army and it was a running joke that they all looked angry and looking for problems, but I seen some Koreans make a mistake bowing at the end at….. and they didn’t make an issue. But these would be the guys you will get asking to see your phone if you take a photo too close and they think you haven’t included the entire statue in the photo. Security is not needed at these statues IMO, I was given the excuse because of the heat and risk of fire, but its to show power and possibly to stop any embarrassing photos.
The currency we used were, USD, Euro, RMB and local money. (Korean Won) We used all of them but tried to stick to local money, but you can only get that when you do the supermarket visit. I do have some local currency to give to friends as a gift, so just ask and I will drop some off at the bar. One note for each person is best.
The zoo had many types of dogs on display, this was very strange to see. The NK people eat dog as a delicacy, some people eat it twice a year at the start of winter which is said to keep them warm. You almost never see pet dogs and I have never seen a stray.
We cannot meet people that we wish, even foreigners unless they are in the same hotel, everything is designed to prevent communication.
34,000 statues in North Korea, that’s one to every 750 people
There are around 200 westerners living in North Korea
Only 5000 westerners per year visit North Korea
Allegedly, only 18 hairstyles for women and 10 for men are allowed in North Korea
Foreigners hanging out with locals is frowned upon
The government spends around 30% of the country’s budget on the military despite problems with healthcare.
Most of my photos went missing due to a dodgy sd card and a problem with my phone, all the photos are from my wife’s collection apart from the random ones in this gallery below.
How do North Korean’s find partners?
They said at university, at weddings as bride maids/groomsmen, work and matchmaking companies. There is no intranet dating websites, But there is no arranged marriage anymore, Koreans are also told to marry their own blood only, and found it very very odd that I had a Thai wife, they probably do not know that other nations interbreed.
You could use the word brainwashing but that tends to suggest only negative connotations, in the west, we are all “brainwashed” by businesses, by telling us how we should behave, what we should wear, what we should buy all the time, we are offered choices to express ourselves or to feel free. We are all brainwashed in some way or another.
In school here the children have hours of singing daily about how great their leadership is, how great their country is by looking at past history, we all have wins we can look back upon but I feel a countries success should be judged by the economy of today, the ethics, poverty, access to hospitals and how prisoners are re-educated. People from Britain are often proud of being so powerful and owning so much, but apart from having the balls and organisation to fight, a lot of bad things had to happen to take peoples land. Maybe the world has a lot to learn from NK, maybe we should all focus on our own countries rules and regulations and not be dictated by other countries. There are very harsh laws in some poorer countries because richer ones told them to make them, maybe we should all find the best way and learn from each other. If drugs weren’t reported in our media, then how would people know they exist?
In North Korea, every room we have been in has some images or video running with old videos, often Korean musicals which have feel-good themes about how proud people should be about there history, they are proud people for this reason, just like Thai people are. There are only NK, Chinese and Russian videos allowed here and they are carefully selected, I think its because they aren’t westernised and have many strict regulations to follow.
If you want to get a group of people under your control, you need to get them to follow a faith, religion or some common objective. You can use “Black people” or “Homosexuals” as an example, they have all banded together in the past to fight for the rights, the appointed leader of a religion or group, can then say every command they want providing it is for the cause. The best force to motivate your staff in a business is to use peer pressure, so if everyone is working hard for their country (therefore leaders who represent them) the flag is used as an anchor for all those feelings, most countries do this, especially Americans and armies use the same techniques to get people to do risky behaviour and tough jobs, when our face is in the dirt in the raid and we are getting bullets fired at us, We wouldn’t do it for money, but we are told its for the greater good of our country and our team, but are our countries really under threat? Or are we fighting for financial reasons? Are we also being lied to and manipulated to take risks and do bad things for our country? (you could argue that’s similar to North Korea but it’s our of context because they are working everywhere, not out on the battlefield. I have seen many people working robotic, for long boring hours, but it wouldn’t be for money, they are doing it for their country…. But does the country benefit from having a human traffic light? If you want to argue against people that represent the flag and you represent them, how can you argue against yourself and an entire country? to argue against the leadership is to take on the whole country.
I am not against any religion or faith, but people should be more honest about the intentions of a faith, the advantages and disadvantages of following them and offer alternative faiths, which suggesting that is laughable. Also, most people are born into a religion and are unaware of what they signed up to, but there is good and bad in every religion, some people need leadership, guidance and a moral blueprint to follow and to live with the hope of a promised afterlife. I also feel to worship someone truly, they need to be dead or people will be familiar with them and see their weaknesses if they are long gone, then the stories can be maintained with less eye witness opinions.
Everyone has an idol or leader, it might be a celebrity, football player, a father, a teacher, a martial arts teacher, someone you follow on youtube or a group of people you look up to, you might not see them as your leader, but you give them more credibility and tend to follow them with fewer questions. We need guidance, education from our elders for survival, we also want people to challenge us.
Freedom is a faith we are all controlled by in the west, we are sold a lie/dream that we are free but in reality we are not free, we are all told to fight for freedom and that’s the narrative we are used to controlling us, we are told to agree to things because it’s for our freedom, but we are not free for many reasons, but we are given more rights, but it’s for great reasons, mostly because the few ruins everything for the masses. We fight for our freedom which creates more stress for us, as we are given more choices that we think we need, but in reality, we are paralysed by choice, what if we didn’t have the choice to buy luxury cars/items, or bigger houses or fashion, would we need to push ourselves so hard, would we be less depressed because we don’t feel so inadequate? We waste so much money trying to get new identities, new clothes, cars, decorating the house, tattoos, we feel great for a short while then we feel empty inside and need more. Does freedom matter as much as we think it does? Should we really be run by the masses (the masses vote for leaders) that are barely educated in the right areas?
Us westerners are not really free because of the price barrier or visas, but we are free to earn more and apply for visas, but a lot of people are limited by their beliefs due to education letting them down and family not teaching them. Prices are driven up because of landowners/landlords, the entire economies are affected by a very few select of people, but I am biased because I am a business owner, you could argue that business owners/landlords are really destroying peoples freedom by setting the prices, but then it boils down to the masses choosing to buy from business owners in said locations, so business owners are forced to go in the higher rent places.
The problem with countries is that they are controlled by the masses and those masses are uneducated, (when I say uneducated, I mean about self-development, relationships, social responsibility, psychology, ethics, moral. Not about religion, history, science, maths because that doesn’t help running our country much) the masses allow leaderships/government to control them, but if the masses were all educated, then we could choose wisely the best people to run our country, but to educate the mass society it needs to be delivered by governments, so it could be made to suit their objectives. How do we educate people without prejudice, corruption of education? The answer is we use multiple books by various people and not curriculum written by governments when I want to learn about a subject like branding, I will read 5 books on it from 5 different experts, they are all from various countries with no bad intentions. The answer is to either find some very trustworthy unselfish people with good intentions to lead our countries or to appoint groups of people with the right education and ethics. However a lot of people have idols that they trust and would rather appoint as their leader which could mean celebrities in the future, I personally think a businessman who has travelled well, been highly self-educated, understands economics, investing and a deep understanding of humans should run our countries, the problem is the best salesmen/public speakers get all the power, the people that are willing to bend the truth more than others, the smartest and observant people I have studied are mostly introverts, who do not get a chance in this game, but its really about influence and not real leadership, because most people just want to be sold hope, they don’t want the cold harsh truth, which is more healthy.
Kumsusan Palace of the Sun
This place is a shrine to the dead president (who is currently still president) and the last chairman. Both of them are on display with attached rooms of all of their medals, certificates, there is no expense spared here and there is limited times when you can visit. (maybe so it looks busy or maybe to be more efficient) It’s at the heart of everyone and the most sensitive place with no one over 17 allowed to go. We are required to go in dressed up and to be very respectful. It was a very serious place and not somewhere I would like to visit again.
This was one of the few places I was slightly nervous, people crying, tensions were tight, I can imagine this is the sort of place where you could be the most insulting if you tried to take sneaky photos or acted disrespectfully, I paid close attention to do what the guides say and there was hundreds of North Koreas visiting to pay respect and many were crying loudly.
I do recommend people still go to visit because its certainly an experience. There are metal detectors, a full pat-down and an air curtain on the way in.
Smoke and Mirrors
Every country has the past history they can brag about, we can repeat that all day to prove greatness, but it’s hard to prove future success, so governments can sell hope and promises, but the current day is the truth of our success because its today that matters. Promises of more freedom to travel keeps hope alive, westerners are promises better employment rates, lower taxes, better hospitals and schools. Lack of progress is a disadvantage of trying to influence a whole nation to do as they are told by focusing on past events repeatedly daily, the advantage is easily persuading people to work hard for almost nothing, work proud with strong work ethics, providing hope is always around, challenges are set (no matter how small) and making people proud of their roles and them not wanting more, it helps by limiting their beliefs and hiding what they could get. Being stuck in the past means that people are often stuck in daily routines, which offers peace, safety and stability, but it prevents change and progress, in the west businesses are always trying to influence our daily routines, this makes us used to change, and causes continued change and progress as we all constantly adapt to what we are influenced by with advertising. When we share the same experiences, same emotions, same energy as those around us, we create emotional bonds, these are ok until we change and others around us stay the same, people in routines will tend to have the same friends for life, people constantly changing habits will make new friends more often and see old ones less often. This is a benefit of routine, the same friends offer more safety and stability.
You can get people doing almost anything and for free if they choose to do it and are doing it for a cause, westerners feel people are forced to do bad things in “regimes” but people are influenced to make choices to do bad/tiresome/mundane jobs. Classic examples are human traffic lights, people working inside electronic lifts, signal box people, guards at various places staring for hours on end without talking. Money cannot buy that dedication.
We seek new pleasures and try to run away from our feelings, we try to overindulge in pleasures because we feel this is where happiness is, if one pleasure isn’t available such as gambling or drugs, they may turn to another pleasure.. True happiness isn’t from pleasure, because we recalibrate and need more continuously, it takes self-reflection and stopping the games, we should live for ourselves and free from the chains. But what if we were limited by which pleasures we could have? No drugs around? Almost no money to buy drugs because our houses are provided for, we get food stamps etc. What if we have less selfish emotions and more selfless emotions. (thinking about the country and not ourselves)
I asked if we could see the courts and we couldn’t. I asked about prisons and they said they don’t have prisons, only re-education. The western media calls them forced labour camps, in the west we have huge expenses housing people in prisons, maybe making them work would reduce costs and help our economy, also I think keeping them more active, with a purpose will help people improve themselves. There is always a cry of human rights from good people about prisons, so they tend to get higher standards of living in the west, so we punish them by taking only their freedom away. Maybe hard labour would be better for our economy and be more of a deterrent for prisoners? Surely if people are warned what punishment they will get for what crime and that punishment is delivered, then its fair game? If you put your hand in fire, you will get burnt, so you don’t do it, if there are harsh punishments for stealing, then you don’t steal or you steal because you might not get caught, so people end up stealing several times, then when they get caught, they complain about the punishment they get… I think no matter what harsh punishment there is, it’s fair to deliver providing everyone knows the punishment beforehand.
Border “Concrete Wall”
At the border everything seemed childish, I’m not blaming it on North Korea, but its just humans in general, one example is the North Koreas made their flag pole bigger than South Koreans, then it became a race to get the highest until North Koreans had the highest flag pole, its actually an indication of pettiness and who is prepared to go to higher lengths of silliness, if that was me, I would put the other countries flag up, to show that I don’t have a problem and I want to resolve it.
I asked about hospitals and I am told there is plenty of them and they are very good, I have no idea if that’s the truth, but living in Thailand 12 years, I have noticed the government hospitals are ok, but the diagnostic equipment can be limited and dated, and it seems like the youngest, less experienced doctors work there, I have a feeling with no private hospitals here, the better doctors go abroad to seek better pay. We had a doctor at our hotel full time, there is no way they can pay him much. I asked why foreigners cant go to the hospitals here, we are warned that we would need to go back to Beijing if we have a problem, I was told by a local its because the doctors in the hospitals here do not speak English. So if we get ill we need to see a hospital in the embassy district that has English speaking doctors, they also said foreigners are scared of Korean doctors, so I am on the fence with this one, I have used hospitals in poor countries a few times, they can make some people anxious.
It seems everything was built in the 1980’s and 1990’s (maybe in the Asian boom) everything seems to be from the leadership or in memory of, or built by Korean people for the leadership, whereas most governments just build stuff with the countries money without any claims, I am not sure if the Korean people really see these as gifts or they know it’s just their money buying stuff. All the buildings are very very grand and well maintained to show power and strength, they are not built efficiently or relative to the economy here, it feels a bit sad so much money is used on such buildings but maybe it’s worth it to make a whole country proud and hardworking? In the west, our labour costs are too high, but here there is an abundance of army, volunteers, “prisoners” and many other people willing to help the country. All the buildings, statues, government buildings, museums are spotlessly clean, many sites look new, but the furniture, fittings and décor give away the age, but everything is so old, it’s like we are in an old movie all the time, old uniforms, buildings and hair cuts.
I was told vinyl/granite/marble was a huge export business here. Most imports seem to come from china, some Russia and I was surprised to see products from the USA, Japan, so I asked and they said it was because those products came from China. (probably made there but says from USA and Japan) I am not sure about South Korea. NK label themselves as Korea.
The education here is tightly controlled, in the library, if you have questions beyond the books, you can have a free consultation with a professor. The professors are sat in rooms waiting for people to ask them questions, I fee this is an inefficient use of their time. I also feel that without the internet, everyone’s education is too controlled and dated, we need to read opposing views to figure out challenges and decide for ourselves, for example, history accounts are written differently from different countries and witnesses. Also any subject you want to really master, you need to access the internet, while I am in NK, I have many questions, just from my wife about many things, not just NK, the guides keep asking us what more do we want to do, but we don’t have the internet, so I feel very dumb because normally I can answer everything with a quick search. The bulk of education here is history, the problem with just looking at the past is your attention is less on the future, if you spend all your nations time celebrating past “victories” instead of fixing the current issues, then they end up not improving the economy or the countries issues. All my successful friends are forward-thinking, we are talking about what we are doing, planning to do and where we want to be, this is a bad thing for a nation, but at the same time, it’s creating a great work ethos, which may counterbalance that.
It is possible for foreigners to come to the universities in North Korea to learn Korean language, it is said people prefer to learn in NK even if they are doing business in the South, because its apparently more traditional and less corrupt from western influence, but I think its more likely because its a lot cheaper. Education for NK citizens is free here.
Problems with less business
There is higher prices, slower service, fewer choices, but why are we always buying time in the west and not living for the moment? Do we need so many choices? We are often disabled by too many choices and that creates fussy people, I consider myself a traveller, so I will eat what I am given and sleep were we are required, I don’t always like it, but no matter where we stay or what we consume, we are always looking for more, or we are unhappy with our choices, but what if we had less choice? Maybe we would be more grateful and happier, but we wouldn’t feel as free or able to express ourselves! I always say expressing ourselves is the key to happiness, but at the same time, if you are taught that being a good, obedient, hard-working citizen is more than enough to be at the highest level of achievement, maybe people are relieved from feeling like that haven’t achieved enough.
Having less business here means less choice, efficiency, higher prices than there should be, simply many things not available and nothing seems to be convenient, we couldn’t buy paracetamol at the hotel and we couldn’t go out and buy some, so we had to see a doctor that came to our room with a nurse. Whereas in the west we have many stores close to us. However. Conveniently placed products and small-sized portions (they seem to be all wholesale sizes here) increases our chances and ability to impulse buy. We want convenience and choice, but what does it get us? Overindulgence? Planning our week ahead for food would give us more discipline and structure and that would go across in other areas of our life. Most of the fruit here is dried and most of the milk seems powdered.
Having a nation poor, with little business and most the GDP spent on military stuff for a show of power, the mass games/marching events with up to 100,000 participants is impressive to see and many people travel to see it. But it’s a sign of a country with economic troubles, keeping a nation busy with 10,000 hours per person in training has a heavy bill, even if people do get barely paid anything. For me it’s a display of an inefficient society, for others, it’s a proud display for the country, either way, the people have worked hard and should be commended for their efforts, it’s not like they have many choices.
There seem to be many sports departments in the government, it’s a great way to use peoples time up, make them happy and fulfilled, its certainly a path I would have liked to take, but it’s up until your too old, then there are masses of you without much else to do? I do think we could learn from this though, we could encourage our youth to participate in similar events, keeping the youth fit and active is always a great thing.
In the west we have advertising everywhere for brands, products, it’s a constant fight, so our world is cluttered with different messages fighting for our attention. People are bidding for real estate online and offline to get our attention, this also drives the prices up for companies, in NK, there is only car adverts and another one. But all the advertising is the leadership/country history.
The biggest problem with no outside access is a lack of education, we need the input of the world in our lives, most the YouTubers I follow are from America, not because they are better, but because there are more people there, so its more likely you have people that are not only thought leaders, great at what they do, but they have access to youtube and are happy to promote themselves heavily online. Having an intranet only is great if you want to control a countries narrative, sometimes in the West we have shot ourselves in the foot by having too many choices and shouting for freedom continuously, but freedom has a cost also, but we are not really free, we are still shackled by the influence of business. When people get access to the internet, educate themselves and realise they have various choices, they will fight for “freedom” but that’s a stressful and less peaceful place to be. When we start seeing other peoples benchmarks and knowing we are unable to try to achieve them, even if we never would, we feel depressed or hampered because I feel that humans need to be challenged and we always want more, having more is probably a survival mechanism, the more we have, the less chance we encounter problems. Opening up the internet would create very fast change, it’s too much of a sharp edge for any society, things need to move a little slower, china did the first step safely by blocking western social media sites etc, the Chinese use there own sites mostly, I am guessing this would be a safer first step for NK.
I was told this building is the entire intranet
In the West we always talk about freedom, but we are bounded by laws, customs, businesses influence, we have expensive lives because we are brainwashed that we need all these things to be happy, but most things that make us happy are actually free, but at least we can travel to where we want, however, a lot of people can’t afford to travel or don’t wish to either, I don’t mean someone going to Tenerife and sitting by a pool for 2 weeks, that’s not really travelling in my book and its something we can all do without if needed, I mean travel to live, work, to write, to experience different countries, to live with someone we love.
Nk people cannot travel in general, and if they are its mostly only china, and its only for education or business, the problem with travelling is people can easily leave or they have access to the world wide web, and the truth is available on the world wide web, that’s a problem when you are making everyone follow a faith or certain narrative. I believe every country is equal, it has good and bad in certain ways, yes NK has a lot of problems with poverty, but so does many other countries, you could argue that’s because of a lack of outside investment and because of the inequality of wealth, but you get the same in other countries that are poor, people don’t want to invest in risky businesses or countries, especially when they don’t understand it or believe the numbers that they are given.
If you teach a nation they should be proud of being from that country and that they should all work together towards a common goal, to be proud of the faith and the faith they are fighting for, you can easily use that responsibility to make everyone do good things, this will create a country of no litter, strong work ethics. They use flags at construction sites to make people work harder, everyone is in uniforms/suits, so they behave civilised and work harder to represent the uniform they are wearing better.
The most dangerous thing about NK I felt
There is a lot of emotion anchored to certain photos, statues and flags, you need to pay respect or avoid them completely. The other problem that makes me not feel safe is the lack of communication or media if something bad happens, we are relying solely on the laws and systems in place, but they are highly organised* with many regulations, strict laws, overstaffed and a department for every situation, so I am very sure that everything would be ok, they seem to work very well preparing everything and organising things flawlessly. My wife felt she was not safe here because of a very vivid dream she had 3 nights in and all the rubbish she had heard, knowing what I know not about how organised* they are and how good the leaders really are, I am happy that we are safe, our tour company has been very professional and caring, they really care about how our holiday is going.
*Maybe I wouldn’t feel they were so organised if I was a broke citizen living in the countryside? Maybe its because I was mostly in the capital city, but we did go out in the countryside for 3 days out of the 9 days. We only went to places on the itinerary which will make me bias as they are showing me the best things.
What’s the best thing about coming to NK?
I enjoy seeing the order, processes, organisation, there is no desperation for money because people want fewer things, tips are rejected half from embarrassment and it just seems they are not that motivated for it, we like to over tip leaving 8-10 USD often just to make people happy, so we normally leave it on the table and walk away quietly. When I go to many countries, especially poorer ones, we are constantly hassled by touts, beggars, taxi drivers and it gets tiring, I don’t get angry, I understand them, no one wants to live in poverty when everyone else around them is buying expensive products and showing off.
A lot of people are wearing army uniforms, even on their days off, people are proud of working for there country and its means less personal clothes required, this might make people feel uneasy seeing the “army” everywhere because where most of us come from, we only see the army in troubled places. However, psychologically people that are wearing some sort of uniform, conform and behave better, when we are talking to someone in their work clothes we trust them more because they are representing a brand and they have a job to lose if they act badly.
It is more peaceful in NK, less stress, (you could argue stress is a western disease) NK people are living in the moment, less/no traffic, parking everywhere we go, there is more attention on things around, rather than people distracted by their phones and seeking the next dopamine rush. I came here with lots of rubbish in my head but seeing how media, people twist things and gossip, I came very open-minded, I do feel that the past leadership was very good, there is almost nothing about the current, but I also read online that the younger generation is changing, so the old system may have to adapt as China did. However, maybe I have been influenced already from all the photos with children, all the grand gestures, the worship, statues and shrines… all the smiley faces and familiarity, personal branding at its best.
In 9 days, I met a Russian guy at Pyongyang hotel who was here working playing musical instruments, I saw one guy that was on a tour that looked and dressed like harry potter, three Spanish people on a guide, one driving a car and I spoke to a few westerners playing bowls at the hotel, they said they lived and worked here at an embassy. All the other tourists we seen in great numbers were Chinese and NK people.
Random Photos – I apologise I haven’t put them in order and named them all, but its a big job and I don’t feel people care much anyway.
How to get to NK?
We organised our tour through a tour company that organises our tour with a North Korean Tour Company, I guess you are paying for the translation, guarantee, and to have everything planned for you. They work together from start to finish. However, once you are here, you can no longer contact the original company, only the NK company your guides work for. For me I flew to Beijing with a double-entry visa, I could have used the 144-hour visa I think but it only works flying through Beijing I think. Then we met the tour company and had a rundown of stuff we should and shouldn’t do and had the opportunity to ask any questions, we were given our plane tickets to NK from the old terminal 2 in Beijing airport, the next day we got to T2 and after a 2 hour flight, we landed in NK and the guides found us at the baggage checking area, then we were driven by a small bus for 40 minutes to Pyongyang Capital city and went to Pyongyang hotel, which is meant to be the best hotel in the city.
How can we fix world issues?
We can fix world issues by educating the masses and we can only do this by travelling, mixing, talking, speaking, internet access and by reading/writing. People need a benchmark to know what they are missing out upon, then they will fight for their rights, otherwise, they will just settle for what they have got, which is ok if they are being treated fairly without torture, famine, rape, murder etc
What about a lawless society? but teaching everyone string work ethics and the same morals from a young age? The problem is humans want to bring up their own children in their own ways, but then in NK criminals families are punished if someone commits a crime, which makes a very good deterrent but it’s not good if you have some psychopath or a crazy person in your family. Should parents be accountable for the children they have brought up badly?
If we have more integrity and honesty in every country, we could run a country much more efficiently. We waste so much money on security, investigations and policing. In Japan maybe there are some lessons to be had there, even in china I seen a self-service shop with no visible staff. If we had more honesty and integrity higher up, we could trust our leaders/governments/police not to abuse the law, then we could punish people without needing as much evidence that is currently required, so many guilty people get off the hook on a loophole or insufficient evidence, our fight for freedom and equality makes policing very ineffective and expensive. I personally hate those YouTube videos where people are getting stopped by the police to be checked and they are arguing about there rights, they think they are heroes for our freedom, but really they are heroes for criminals. I always remember bad people only exist because good people do nothing.
Sports and business have a big role in world peace, business has little boundaries because money and demand will always be a heavy driving force. Sports especially, South Korea have already come to play in North Korea, I think sports usually starts mixing first before the rest follows, it’s a great sign for both countries to open up together again.
What threats are there to unstabilising the current system?
War, Open Internet and Education. When people start finding out that other countries aren’t as bad as they are told, that other people have more freedom and choices, they will start wanting more. I think they will follow the path of China where they let people access the world internet but block western social media and search engines, its a start towards big changes. Once they can all start travelling, the country will change rapidly.
Underground in Pyongyang
How to get people to give up their “freedom”?
Promising them safety and telling them how unsafe it is outside and offer proof of unsafe events in outside countries. Telling them they are free, liberated already, offer them proof of why they are free, showing them evidence of freedom. Once people get the mindset that they are free already (west also) how can they fight for freedom when they think they have it already? If you are told you are safe and you have everything already and see bad stuff outside, why would you risk it all for “freedom” and how freedom is defined is different to each people, I like the freedom of travel, some people want freedom of speech, or to practise a religion, or to carry a gun or to have gay marriages… but the freedom to choose our government and its leaders is the most important to everyone imo the definition of freedom is different to each person, maybe NK is free from the west?
Everyone is in the same boat makes it easy for us to cope with our situation, knowing that we are all ageing, getting closer to death and everyone we love will die is a very difficult thing to cope with, but we can deal with it because we know that everyone around us has the same fate. If we all have the same benchmark and its achievable to some degree, we should be able to cope with it, but when we see other peoples benchmarks (high standards of living, more freedom and more wealth) we are starting to feel depressed or trapped because we don’t have the tools or ability to raise our benchmark, it the west we are sold a dream that it’s a fair society and we can all be what we want to be, which is truthful in many ways, but it has a high cost, there is a lot of risk in personal growth, and a lot of stress and time needed.
How we can bring our children up better using the same techniques of influence?
We can put photos up of our family elders providing they have some story of greatness, display the medals/certs, make the idolise the elders(us) and tell our children they need to be good for our family name, to make the family proud and to continue greatness for the family.
A Westerners death and the conspiracies.
I know very little about this event regarding a foreign tourist dying, but I know someone that does, he said Otto cut out a picture of the leadership from a poster after getting drunk, the problem here is that the entire country sees this as an attack on them, their leadership and their country. It’s very difficult to keep someone safe, especially when they are locked up because there are always people that want to be seen as national heroes….. my guess is that is what happened, and the attack on him wasn’t planned by people higher up.
This man Otto happened to be American, that the North Koreans attack in the media every week for doing terrible things, which probably didn’t help the situation. I have seen the same attacks in Thailand, someone getting lynch mobbed when they insulted the king, all the anger in their lives has a chance to come out and they want to be a national hero. You could argue what if a Muslim (a lot of media attacks them in the USA) burnt an American flag and it was a high profile case, would he be left alone unscathed? I don’t like people behaving this way, but I understand it. A poster to us is just ink on a paper and an image, we have no true idea how deep a countries feelings are anchored on that poster.
Also, was this case used to turn American citizens against North Korean people? I think anyone from any country would have had physical violence in that situation. Was this used as an excuse to ban people going to NK? You could argue this is propaganda used for USA
What didn’t I like about the trip the most?
I was with my Thai wife and my son, there is 5 years difference between me and my wife, but people everywhere struggled to understand how Thai (Asian) /English could marry and assumed she was an adopted daughter or sister. North Koreans believe in sticking with only there own, they see no interracial couples anywhere, it’s totally new to them, so every place we went to, the same questions was asked to our guides, it got tiring after a while.
The other thing is the newspaper constantly attacks US, Japan and South Korea, one example I read in Pyongyang times is the US soldiers are raping women right now in South Korea, Japan robbing Africa…. (because one Japanese business is simply doing business there right now) I felt very uneasy many times, in the tourist shops we were very welcome, but many of the elders seemed to hate me, but I am not sure because they never said anything, as we walked around the war museum, there was a few hundred North Koreas behind us (they move orderly in unison in lines) and at the same time they were listening to all the nasty stories about US soldiers doing horrible things to children, (apparently) I had them all looking at me, I have no idea how much of it was true, (if any) but there are horror stories on both sides and a lot of bull crap. I felt guilty like I had been the one that had done it lol
The other thing was the books, there were so many propaganda books around. I am sure most of them are ingrained into the education system, although they won’t be as influential as video, they will be very powerful in establishing authority.
Would I come back to North Korea?
I would consider coming back to get away from every distraction, the internet and be uncontactable. I would be able to have my own time to focus on writing, thinking or planning. I got great value being away for 9 days from the internet, I rewrote NWG website, came up with some great ideas and had a lot of thinking. I also went through a few apps on my phone that had no attention from me since I downloaded them. However, after writing this article, it may not be a good idea to return. I haven’t named/blamed leaders of the country, I feel I have been as unbiased as possible, I also believe the leaders haven’t planned to manipulate, control and influence a whole country, I believe that they were all born into this system, and they are just following the process and system they were taught. I am still on the fence with the pros and cons of this system, I believe we should all seek happiness, the western world causes us depression, stress and anxiety, I think in North Korea there is less stress and a slower pace.
23 hour return train ride from Pyongyang to Beijing
We left in the morning and the guides took us to the train station, we upgraded our tickets to get a train direct to Beijing, when we got on the train we were told that we had the carriage to ourselves, I really didn’t want us to share with anyone else while we are sleeping, I was shocked when a Korean guy came in and joined us, he was in and out smoking and went on the top bunk to sleep for a little bit and I brought him some food, at the Korean border they lock the toilets for 2 hours and check everything, this guy had a few hidden suitcases and the curtain was pulled when the army came in, let just say that none of us got checked and they were very friendly, after a long wait, the train moved, little to our surprise when we got to the Chinese border we were asked to get off the train, we had everything laid out expecting to get off many hours later after an overnight sleep…. I frantically packed our stuff and we all got off the train to get dragged through immigration, this is where Punnipa and Anthony were pulled aside and kept for over an hour without explanation! It seems like the whole carriage was waiting for us and we had no tickets or any idea if the train would be there… eventually we got back to the train and other passengers pointed out our room, I didn’t like all that rushing, I like to plan ahead.. I think they messed up the stamps on Punnipas visa on the way in because 3 people handled her passport.
5 things we can learn from Elon Musk and his Cybertruck launch
Elon posted on twitter yesterday that Tesla already received 250,000 pre-orders worth over 12 billion within days of their unveiling of the new cybertruck without any paid ads
The key business and marketing take aways from this launch
Lesson 1. Start selling top models first
Most businesses start selling high volume products first at lower prices and try to upsell the better models later.
Here is Teslas plan
Create a low volume expensive car
Use that money to develop a medium volume car at a lower price
Use that car to create an affordable one for the masses
This plan is great for cashflow and that’s why its very effective.
Getting a few clients is much easier than the masses.
Start at the top of your value ladder when launching a new business with little cash-flow
Lesson 2. Sell First, build later
Cybertruck has 250,000 orders within a week of the live event but its not going into production until late 2021
Everyone that has ordered has deposited 100 USD which helps with cashflow, makes people commit and gives a good indication of how many will buy the car. (some people may not go through with the order, but others will be joining)
This 100 USD gives some validation and confidence to an idea. This reduces risk and installs some confidence with the shareholders.
A lot of revolutionary products have failed, leaving investors out of pocket for many months worth of work and investment.
Creating a sample and pre-selling it is far cheaper than getting the car into production first, it also creates some demand and urgency to be first.
Always sell your product first and build it later. This validates your idea and brings you some cash to develop it.
Lesson 3. Host a live event to launch a new offer
Instead of creating a new product and putting it on your website, you should create some hype and excitement around a live event.
Tesla always hosts a launch event for their cars, it gives the media and masses something to talk about and something to debate. (especially if things go wrong)
The buzz and anticipation during the build up no doubt helps the sales fly. Apple use the same tactics.
When launching a new offer, you should set a date for a live event where you will present the offer and let people put their orders in. Create excitement and curiosity in the build up.
Lesson 4. Don’t be afraid to polarize your market
The more you specialise a subject with a book, the more likely it will be a success, if your product tries to appeal to everyone, it will appeal to no one.
Having a group of your customers loving a product and the other group hating it will generate thousands of pages of content on the internet of heated debates, videos and many articles discussing the product.
The free reach on social media they get from such a design has been unbelievable. The car also makes a statement for people that they want to be different and you always get loyal brand followers that will buy anything.
Elon has a polarizing personal brand, he appeals to a broad range of people yet his personal attacks on people, his fine from the SEC, smoking weed has generated a lot of publicity for him and none of it really effects him negatively, in fact I think the masses admire people that don’t care so much about what others thing.
Hate me or love me, but know me!
Lesson 5. Build your personal brand as well as your business and leverage that.
We don’t know many CEO’s of car companies, probably because they are well established and they feel they have a lot to lose with risky CEO behaviour, they are probably scared to have a voice and damage the brand. But Tesla is in the growth stage and the type that follow Tesla are very loyal to the brand, which makes them ignore the problems and they are used to a risky CEO.
A personal brand puts a face on a business.Its very powerful especially for Elon because the board is less likely to remove him from the company. He can leverage his personal brand to find more investors. Its far easier to launch a product to people that know and trust you from watching your previous content and they feel part of your story.
Showing real people represent your company helps people bond with the company because people bond with faces and voices. (this is why video is better than writing)
Wealthy business people are often competitive, after gaining a lot of wealth it becomes about protecting wealth more than creating more wealth. This is why I am always putting what I can into stocks and shares because I don’t want to go backwards, I know what I am doing and I have chosen to specialise in that area instead of property. (although I do have property) When someone has a lot of wealth and therefore resources at their hands it is easy for them to do almost anything they want, I am not saying that they will get away with anything but they can at least try, but more likely to pay their way out.
They can get very good lawyers to attack people
They can afford private investigators to gather evidence, record them and send people to befriend people to get information
They can afford to pay people to make other people problems, whether its violence, grief, problems at work, problems with relationships, they can even rent houses nearby to be close to people, they can get peoples addresses
They can move to any country to sue someone with their local law
They can go after peoples jobs or businesses in legal ways, just as buying competitors, undercutting them, buying the business just to sack someone, they can force smaller business owners under them to change suppliers etc
They can get very good lawyers to defend themselves
They can use adverts, media to influence people
They can use all the information on people to intimidate them
They can pay for websites, fake reviews, fake comments to damage peoples reputation online
They can often pay powerful people to help them
They have access to many international resources, paying for postage/flights is very cheap for them and with such wealth from business, they often have deep contacts
They can afford to go on the dark web and buy things, knowing that some things may or may not come. New identities, false documents etc
They can afford to throw money at problems for a long time, honey traps, fake friends all the things that most people cannot afford to use the services off. Paying someone full time to becomes someone’s friend isn’t cheap.
They can use dirty underhand techniques, using violence, house robbery, planting drugs, getting people bullied and set up
They hire security which makes it difficult to fight back
They can move home or react fast to any problems
People with no wealth and little to lose are often happy to attack wealthy people online. However, they do not have any idea what people can be capable of, they have no idea what that wealthy person may have at stake, but one thing is for sure, if you are attacking a wealthy person, he’s protecting his assets and could have a lot to lose, so he will go after any viable threat he has against him, but most likely it will be kept legal because he doesn’t want to lose his assets or position. I thought I would write this because I see all sorts of things online and it surprises me knowing what people are capable of.
Dan Pena is one of my favorite high performance coaches, I have watched a lot of his stuff for years and I watch his QLA castle seminars every time he puts them up for the last year or so. Infact the first time I have seen Dan Pena was on a London Real interview.
One of the problems with Dan Pena is that most people will dislike him because hes aggressive, offensive and hes ontop of people. But this isn’t a problem because it filters all the snowflakes away, when I send “friends” videos of Gary Vee, Grant Cardone and Dan Pena for the first time, they always give a bad first impression, due to cockiness, brutal honesty, arrogance, narcissism, but my “friends” reaction is an indicator of their broken mindset not the speakers.
So, why is Dan Penas program so effective?
Firstly, if you want to be very successful, the way someone talks, walks, thinks, swears shouldn’t be a problem, its normally an excuse to not follow someone, people can go back into their pit of guilt free prograstination, most people especially these guys have a lot of value to give, if people are put off by offensive words and aggressiveness, then they will never get all the obstacles to wealth. You need some arrogance at a higher level, because you have mastered some areas and you know you are right, you need to be a confident leader to get people to follow, you need to risk offending people to get the honesty in their face.
I will just talk about Dan Pena from now on because I want to address why hes successful at changing people.
The first filter is the coarse language, brutal honesty, non-pc language, most the snowflakes will leave by now and leave a butt hurt comment and go back to watching breaking bad.
Then on his website, he has three quizzes, Success Test, Snow Flake Test and the Super success test. That should scare a few people off or filter them…
After a bit more video watching of shouting and yelling, telling people he wants people that aim high only, raises the bar massively on what he thinks wealth really is, makes it very clear he doesn’t want people dragging their feet, he is sure to only have the most motivated people begging for a place at his hardcore seminar.
Some losers would argue that of course, he has a good success rate when he’s got all these filters, but real life has effort barriers anyway and it makes no sense to train people that don’t have the undying motivation to see things through, he does this for satisfaction, not just the money, so he wants to get paid (by seeing people successful).
I see these charlatans do this with shitty courses, there is always someone successful anyway regardless of doing their course or not, and they find successful people and can use the social proof to show that their course is worth alot of money. (Dan Pena is not one of these types)
Next filter is the price tag of around 15,000 USD, (this is for 7 days seminar and then 1 year of follow up) the reason why books do not work well in changing people, (despite more info than most courses) is that books are 10 USD and there is no accountability. (I wrote here about best ways to learn) Anyone that has paid so much, travelled so far not only wants it real bad, they also want to get a return, especially if they have borrowed the money or sold everything for the ticket. Sadly this is human nature and its not Dan’s problem, many people will offer free advice or coaching but it gets ignored, (I found this out very quickly) you really have to charge a premium to get serious people in, take massive action and to make them work their asses off.
What do I like about Dan Pena?
he’s made money and proven himself
he raises the bar on work ethics (I get so frustrated with people having so many excuses)
he pushes people to higher goals, this is a good way of making people achieve much more even if they don’t get anywhere as near
he lets people know there is a lot of sacrifices to make for lofty goals
he doesn’t tell people what they want to hear, he pretty much knocks everyone down a peg or two when they arrive, egos are a real problem in personal growth
he holds people accountable and he is really on their back during a mentorship
he makes everyone dress smart which raises everyone’s work ethics and expectations, the surroundings do that also
he’s a great speaker, talker, influential
he gets emotional and motivates people
he points out self-esteem is a huge issue
he’s confident and cocky which makes him a good leader
he’s not racist, he says everyone is a problem, which is so true!
he uses a lot of bad language which wakes people up and makes them take action
What do I dislike?
There are a few contradictions in what he says, says he doesn’t care about people, but seems to care, says he has no feelings towards mentees, tells people they deserve/should go off and die if they don’t do certain things…. he says he would put people in hospital over insults. But I understand the shock value, it’s great marketing, I understand that he’s got a job to do, and that’s controlling peoples wild egos.
I actually love his non-pc and don’t give a shit attitude. But I am always thinking to myself under this hard exterior there must be a caring guy… but we all contradict ourselves because we can’t be literal. I say I don’t give a crap about certain peoples opinions but that’s not possible, especially if they are getting an audience, there are always lots of “if’s and buts”, but I notice a lot of speakers talk a lot and there give many things away about themselves. But if he stroked everyone’s ego and tried to congratulate them on previous deals, would it work so effectively? I don’t think so. I am pretty good at figuring people out, but when things do not align, it’s tough for me to figure them out.
My friend messaged him about something negative and he got a long reply in capitals, it was more of a rant but he was added as a friend on LinkedIn anyway, I sent a nice messages of a photo up of Dan next to my computer, saying “Just do it” He read it but no reply, which tells me he responds better to attacks/drama or a bit of negativity. Gary Vee pays more attention to negative comments, but that’s our fuel for motivation.
Dan Pena says “if love got the job done, you wouldn’t be here” this is really key to success because I have seen many spoilt children be worthless in the sense of adding value to anything, but those of us that had our ass kicked, we have become successful to spite those around us!
Our friends drag us down generally because they want us to be safe, our enemies abuse us and want us to fail, our enemies are our motivators, Dan Pena can be that tough father figure that people never had.
Why haven’t I been to Dan Pena’s Seminar?
I said to a few friends that I would go to Dan’s seminar if they would, but at the same time, my business is going well and I want to keep investing and the 15,000 USD cost would actually set back my current investing, its not a lot of money but its a setback. Also, I enjoy my life and what I do, I never want to be sat in an office doing roll-ups and doing a 9-5 pm thing with corporate people around, I enjoy my businesses and my progress. I apply Dan’s motivation and teaching to kick my own ass. He entertains me, I don’t watch movies, sports, soaps or drink alcohol. I have journals, checklists, accountability tools up to my ears, partly to test them for future clients, but for myself when I have some goals I want to achieve, but they get tiring sometimes, so I go in and out of them. I really don’t want it for a year. I like to work my balls off 7 days a week on my own terms. My happiness is more important than financial goals, but if I’m always prepared to make many sacrifices for the right deals, I’m just not going to go look for problems for myself, I would rather follow the path that I am in.
Why do I watch Dan Pena then?
I want to be a high-performance coach, I like inspiring, motivating people, I love helping people change their mindset, I love the process, I love seeing people grow, there are much more lucrative businesses to be in, but I am proving myself as a high performance person, I am getting the skills to help people, I am practising on people around me without them knowing…. one day people will ask me to coach them and I will be able to do a bespoke high-quality coaching/accountability/motivation course/followup/consultation. But like Dan, I don’t want to take any prisoners, I want people that are truly fed up with life and want to make changes. I have my proven record already but nothing at Dans level financially, but higher than most around me.
But it all boils down to the work ethics, processes and the mindset.
If you want to think big, be motivated, raise the bar on your work ethics, know its ok to sacrifice time with friends/family, have your time accounted for, check who you hang out with, and follow his process of making 2000 phone calls to get the jackpot. Then Dan Pena is a good person for you to watch, but if you are too PC and are a snowflake, you won’t like him. (doesn’t mean everyone that doesn’t like him is a snowflake) I suggest you watch a few of his university keynotes, like most speakers he repeats himself and doesn’t have many messages, but he’s also got a good process of buying companies from motivated sellers, putting them together and selling them.
He has so many videos that are amazing, let YouTubes algorithm decide for you
I see so many parents protecting their children from many dangers, filtering their world, lying to them, hiding things from them, I would never tell people how to bring up their children, but the one thing we can all agree on is that the biggest danger to any child is their parents.
From what I have learned the worst thing we can do to a child is spoil them, most of the troubled people are spoilt in their upbringing, so this is my top priority is not to spoil my child, it’s tough watching them cry and holding things away from them for no real reason apart from to not spoil them.
The biggest danger to our children is actually us, we mess them up more than anyone else can. So many parents try to make children their friends, it can work but I have to give my son tough love which he will thank me for later, I mean I am the one that has to say no to him and take things off him.
Here are some things I try to help my children grow into successful and honest men
No arguing around them, they are happy children because they don’t see conflict (we rarely do anyway)
No filtering (within reason) I have let my son see violent thrillers and I always debrief him after movies, I explain to him why each scenario couldn’t possibly be real and I explain how the movie was constructed with green screens and how it’s just made to shock and entertain. I wouldn’t do scary movies just yet because I want him to sleep at night. He sees a lot on youtube, I do my best to explain how/why people do things that they do.
I talk to him about my investments, the companies products, services and I try to make him aware of what I have invested in for him (Disney, Alibaba and Tesla)
I talk about the business that we are involved in, but not in great detail regarding the bars, I keep him physically well away from them. I talk to him about my future ideas for him, but he can make his own choices later.
I teach him the right mindset to have, especially not blaming, telling the truth and doing what he says he will. (not easy right now)
I almost never talk about the news because I do not watch it, I teach him to focus on helping those around him and bettering himself
I teach him to have a balanced life, success is about happiness, helping family, reinvesting profits, building a legacy and teaching those around you.
On his birthdays, mine and my wife’s, we always give to charities instead of receiving presents, this has made him very thoughtful of others.
Help him travel the world, with me and without me later, I think the best education by far for any child is travelling to many different countries and experiencing many different cultures. It’s also a great business lesson because lots of countries have different ideas and rules.
Install good work ethics by making him work for things, no free handouts.
I don’t like schools giving out medals to everyone, I tell him the truth about that, you are either a winner or not, there is no 2nd place in many real-life business situations
I try not to label him as anything negative, I always tell him to do better next time
He asks me why people don’t work, why they smoke, why they don’t have money (when we travel because he doesn’t see it too much in his own life) I try to explain to him the different mindsets that get people in such positions and explain to him about parenting, life choices and how to avoid problems, I have told him he can drink alcohol if he wants when he’s old enough but I have told him the risks, loss of time and the bad decisions that can arise. I try not to point people out as losers, I try to explain what could have brought them there.
I do my best to never show moments of weakness or moaning, he needs a confident leader
I have taught him growth mindset, the 80/20 rule and the power of compounding also. These are solid foundations for him later on.
Jordan Peterson said you can measure the success of parents by seeing how their children socialises with other children, we took our children straight to nursery at a very young age, my youngest is 6 months and he goes to nursery once a week. Anthony started when he was 1.5 years old.
A lot of parents (with money) refuse to pay for their children to go to expensive schools because they say the education can’t be better, its the connections, the service, the support and the mindset of other children around them that is the value, Anthony’s friends parents are all successful business owners, all of our investment into his education (7000 GBP a year) will come back later in deals for him. He’s got resources through his friends already and he’s only 8 years old. Not to mention I have some strong connections from that bonding.
I try to hug them and kiss them both daily, with a lot of resistance jokingly from Anthony, but I feel that children need love and encouragement every day. But that doesn’t mean making him soft, if he’s crying about nothing, I will ignore him.
I have high expectations of him often ignoring the fact he’s a child, I try to make him grow into them, be proud and want to do better.
I go by the motto, monkey sees monkey do. They follow what we do, not what we say. I believe very strongly in this. This should be applied at work, running companies and teaching people. I couldn’t be a good high-performance mentor if I was on the sofa watching Netflix, watching sports, sat at bars smoking or drinking. This also helps me to behave!
But I am always mindful that any bad behavior is my fault and I have to change the way I deal with him differently, it’s a bitter pill to swallow but it’s true.
I am also mindful that he needs to learn to appreciate money, budget because he sees a lot of money moving around and often thinks we have money to waste. The biggest challenge is we make good money and he sees nice houses, cars, investing and often thinks there is no struggle, but we are always explaining to him where we came from, the struggles we have and what price we have paid to get to where we are.
What trump card do I have up my sleeve?
I have told Anthony to accelerate his reading, then I will pay him 10-20 GBP per book that he reads of my choice, they will all be personal development, mindset, growth, business, entrepreneur books. There will be around 100-300 books that I will pay him to read, I will also tell him to make notes and teach others. This is what will accelerate him into the compounding effects of education, giving him all the tools he needs.
Write a list of things that make us unhappy and cut them out
Anxiety and depression are caused by looking forward and in the past. If you are able to live in the present, your mind will be more clear? Keeping yourself busy is a great way of being present.
Seeking pleasures does not help with happiness because we always need more pleasure each time. That’s the wrong path to prioritise.
Make time to watch some comedy because just smiling and laughing alone builds up the neural pathways again
Walk and sit with a good posture, it helps with confidence and happiness.
Do your best not to complain and dwell on things. (I am working on this)
Always have goals, yesterday I did one press/push up, I will be doing one extra per day and see where it goes. I have learning, financial, investing, business goals…
Avoid negative people and negative conversations
Practice gratitude daily, remember the times you were less well off and you had fewer choices
Remember that all the best things in life are free, it just takes a while to realise that, spending time with friends/family sharing common interests or goals is what makes us happy.
And listening to music, I like listening to Soundeo Mixtapes on Youtube with the feel-good videos as I work.
If you hear yourself saying “I will be happy when……
….I am making xxxxx per month …..I am doing a new job ….. finished in this relationship ….. living in another country …… I have upgraded my car or house
Then your misguided because you will always be waiting. I have reached many goals that I felt would bring me to some heaven, but new goals arrive and you end up living in misery trying to achieve your next goal. Sometimes short term misery is worth it for long term gain, but we must respect time because we can’t buy more.
Recently I went to North Korea where there is no internet available for foreigners except if we pay silly prices for 3G but I wanted the experience of no internet and to find out all the things we took for granted. I was promised the internet at the best international hotel in Pyongyang, but it wasn’t working. I was secretly hoping for a quick connection so some messages will go out and some will come in, even if I couldn’t respond.
I have a list of goals, jobs written on my desk, I have loose daily/weekly checklists most of the time. I don’t have to do most of it for my core business, but I do it for fun, to better myself and try to help others. One of my biggest goals involves creating content, I need the internet for that some of the time, but I have learned enough not to need the internet when I am writing. But I get distracted constantly and its all my fault, so I have 2-3 phone apps I am trialing that count the time of my app use and another restricts my time on them if I set it to do so. (I will write about them all later, but my goal is to be more productive)
My biggest problems being online
Too many ways to procrastinate, there is always something more to research, then you end up with 467 tabs open on google chrome and 217 downloaded youtube videos which is about right currently. After all, learning is progress and I should feel good about that!
I have almost all message/website notifications off on my phone and I unfollowed everyone on social media around a year ago, I don’t watch the news, or sports, which makes me laser-focused (boring to many) so I am only distracted by youtube video notifications and checking my instant messages to get a shot of dopamine. I feel that I waste little time already, but I am constantly getting annoyed with myself for not doing more!
I have around 10-20 phone apps involving learn Thai, self-development, speed reading, there were so many apps on my phone but all ignored because of distractions, there is never a good time, its always later. I am pretty good at nailing important tasks, but when is there a right time to finish my speed reading course? Turning the internet off is the only way to kill those distractions and hide the dopamine cookie jar.
What I learned not having internet access (while in North Korea)
I wasn’t able to answer all the questions thrown at me by my family, I wasn’t able to look up the weather, check currency rates, get translations (I did pre-download the languages but it didn’t always work) I wasn’t able to show our guides pictures/videos of our home, country, work or send them links…. there was no way to contact them now or later. I couldn’t look for things to do, places to go, I couldn’t check up history, I couldn’t look for opinions, I couldn’t get info to write about a new topic… I couldn’t look up foods or show people arguments for/against anything.
I felt mentally shackled, I really struggle to believe anyone is well educated when they don’t have access to the www internet…. comments sections under articles/news reports often have more value than the article itself.
I had to write down all the questions that I wanted searching, I made notes all day of things I wanted to write online later and search. This is a very good way of saving time and not being sent down a youtube rabbit hole.
What will I do differently after my experience?
I have a few ideas, I always said I would check my “work” messages once an hour for 10 minutes, maybe I could have facebook messenger connect on and off every 1 hour long enough for messages to send and receive, to slow down responses and avoid distractions…
Maybe I need to make more notes all day and search for answers less rarely?
Maybe I should have no internet for 1 day a week? On that day we read and write only, maybe no internet for 12 hours per day?
When you are highly driven and you have a list of jobs to do, its not easy to optimise your life, but having no internet forced me to go through all the video lessons that I downloaded but never found time for… sometimes we need to put ourselves in the corner…
The biggest advantage I had when traveling around North Korea for many hours per day, I had nothing to do but look out the window and think, I wrote an entire article for a website (this article) from scratch, without bias and checking my previous efforts, I was able to brainstorm and load several documents up with ideas, add to them and really think deeply.
Maybe I need to have some way of earning myself some internet access? Finish one job and I get to check the internet?
I am in China now and I am writing this article, and I can’t get a VPN setup on this device (its Linux and the apps are limited) so I am less distracted. (my phone, tab both have VPNs on them right now but its a hassle) Maybe I should block facebook on my computer and just have FB messenger on my phone and leave my phone in a drawer while I work?
Our surroundings make us efficient not us as people. This works both ways by making it more effort to reach for those distractions.
I am doing a huge write up on North Korea, but the short answer is, being offline, away from everything and everyone. With no distractions, being forced to think and find ways to fill my time in the evenings, it really is a time when all the creativity and ideas can come out and it doesn’t get corrupted by other peoples thoughts or your interim research and you can improve/update it several times before you end up sending it out quickly on the same day. Let your work distract you instead of instant messages.
The other advantage was predicting what problems I could get while I am away, having a backup plan, seeing how things go without me and coming back with some grand ideas. One phone call every two days was enough to keep peace of mind.
Disclaimer: I really like facebook/Instagram as a business tool and how it connects people, I am an investor in Facebook. It’s just one example of something that distracts me from my main work goals. The lack of control is a reflection of me, not FB.
5 brutal truths about life and how we waste our time
You cannot make everyone happy, there are lots of people that don’t want to be happy, they are comfortable being unhappy, they don’t want to give up their excuses, their stories, we should accept this and not waste our time. We often lose ourselves pleasing others, let people hate, judge and continue on the path that they are hell-bent to stay on. Misery and suffering has become a daily habit.
They often judge themselves, unhappy with themselves, people will judge the way you look, speak, act, the way you dress, how popular you are and the fact that you are more successful. It’s a losing battle to try and fight all that, so you should free yourself and own it and live your life and maximise your potential for the people that are looking to move forward with you.
They are projecting their unhappiness and showing their insecurity by putting down other people that they feel are more significant than them. Often these people just need some love, compassion, sympathy, and support.
All that matters is we have honesty, integrity and we can live with the rest of the criticisms.
You will never be perfect, a lot of us put ourselves under so much pressure trying to be perfect or the best we can. We all have bad days, failures, the sooner you can embrace this, the quicker you can move forward. Taking some action is better than no action, the effort really counts and what we learned from it. Providing we get up again and fight better, we can be empowered by our failures.
Nothing external will ever make you happy, you can only get short time wins and happiness from buying ourselves nice cars or products. Happiness is found from within, you can see this by seeing people from all wealth backgrounds and different levels of happiness, we are always chasing happiness, how many times do we say “when I get…. I will be happy” Happiness is something that we should choose every day and hour. You can be happy now by smiling, shoulders back, practice gratitude daily, see friends and family, help people around us. We need to do daily rituals to practice gratitude and to be present in life.
Your going to die, most people don’t want to talk about this, they want to avoid thinking about it, but its very motivating, we could die any moment, but the reality is that we shouldn’t wait for opportunities to come, we shouldn’t procrastinate, we shouldn’t spend time worrying about what others think, we have limited time to get things done, time is a gift and its limited in supply. We should make the world better for everyone else on our way.
Time is a depreciating asset, every day that goes by, you are losing that opportunity of who you want to be. We shouldn’t waste time doing things we don’t want to do. As soon as we admit we don’t like doing what we do, we can free ourselves and focus on what we really want to be doing. You can start by looking through my other posts about finding your vision, creating your goals, creating your daily rituals and commit your life to mastery.
I really am writing to help myself and others around me to rise together.
The more I learn, the more frustration I feel talking to people around me about their problems, education really isolates people because there are fewer people to connect with, it’s not that I feel more important, its the frustration I suffer watching people making mistakes, not understanding things how they really are, making mistakes that I can see coming, limited mindsets, fixed identities, losing opportunities, but who am I to say what people should or shouldn’t be doing? maybe people don’t want to improve or become successful? But I think that they do, they just don’t know that it’s available to them and what they can do to get it. I really love good people and I love helping them. This is the reason I want to become a coach because I have tried to help those around me all my life, but people don’t want to leave their comfort zone, but being a coach, people can search and find me.
The problem here is not a lack of intelligence or anyone being better than anyone else, its a simple mindset of learning every day about how we can be better versions of ourselves, prevent problems and rise those around us, so its a lack of self-learning and understanding that causes me frustration, I learn a lot to help myself and those around me.
Many people can not understand why they are in a certain situation and how they can get out of it, if you identify yourself as fat or a smoker, then you can never change that, I don’t regard myself as clever but I seem very smart to those around me, but this is only because I have learnt so much due to not having a full-time job killing my time, I have the decency to learn to help myself and those around me, its just getting people on the train of self-learning, that’s the challenge, once they are on it, the world opens up, learning gives you freedom, it frees those around you, it optimises your life, gives you challenges, helps you fix issues you face and prevent them.
There are many hacks you can apply to your life immediately such as tethering new habits onto current routines, Pareto rule, investing in various assets, the importance of journaling, goal setting, exercising, the effects of compounding in all areas of your life including education! There are so many depressed, demotivated people out there that really do not need to be, but how do we reach these people and help them?
I see friends having friends that aren’t bad but they are either dragging down there expectations, goals or even worst giving them bad habits, then I see guys that have hung around with me or others that are on in the fastlane, get swept along with the fast current towards more success. I have a few friends that I know for a fact if they didn’t hang around with certain people, they would have much better lives right now and fewer problems. Influence is very powerful and peer pressure is one of the biggest tools we can use, but it can work against us also.
I am really struggling to talk to people now unless they have read tons of books, this isn’t just because I only want to talk about investing, business and self development, its because a lot of it is related to our success and mindset and a lot of that frustrates me to see people not maxing out their potential because someone has told them they cannot do something or they have convinced themselves, or they feel the world is against them but those of us that are educated have a lot of clarity.
I have become wise enough to try to hold back my opinions and judgements because our problems are very complex and deep. It’s easy to judge someone shouting at the cashier in the supermarket, but we don’t know the series of events that lead up to that moment and the challenges that person has faced from his family during his upbringing, it’s harder to blame people when you can understand there are generations of abuse being repeated.
This is probably my most confusing article, but I am confused because I have no answers except to keep creating content to help motivate, help people improve themselves and get people onto the path of learning, but if you are lucky enough to not need more all the time and you are happy and content, then I understand 100% why you aren’t pushing as hard as me, because you have made it. Being happy is what everything is building up towards in a very complex way.
How do I help people reach their potential, become happier, follow their dreams and become financially free?
To continue to help those around me, I need to lead by example, inspire and if they want help, I have to wait for them to reach out to me. I don’t expect people to think that I know better, but at least ask me what books will help get them on the right path… I will keep working on all of my projects, businesses and blog and hopefully, I can help a few thousand people when my book comes out.
I stopped following politics years ago because it was a waste of my time, I don’t follow sports, watch TV programs, because they don’t help me work towards my goals and waste my time. But I felt good watching the financial markets because it does involve making money, after all, I keep my opinions to myself and I barely remember most of the financial news that I read.
My daily emails were from Investopedia, Market watch, IBD Tech report, Hargreaves Lansdown, Goldman Sachs…. have been cut out, saving me an hour a day, my focus from really making money was being taken away from news that is totally irrelevant to me. I was listening to macro voices about the markets from high net worth individuals, but a lot of this info was absolutely wasting my time but it felt like the right thing to do.
I don’t need millions of stock picks, I don’t need to hear about world financial news, I don’t need to know about gold prices but the best service I used was seeking alpha alerts to tell me about what my stocks are doing, that’s where my focus is now at.
I also follow 3-4 YouTubers that I use for stock ideas and keeping track of them, so I have gone from knowing the world financial market to just looking at the companies I have invested in or more that I am interested in. This is applying the Pareto rule with my investing. I have cut out Bloomberg, CNN, motley fool and other guys that have opinions on which way the S&P is going. (saving 1-2 hours per day)
Now I have optimised the best bits, I have more time for my business, but less time knowing stuff that is probably useless for me, but makes me sound smarter! I know what I need to know to leverage my money, my plan is established and I just need to follow it. I will have to seem ignorant to the markets but continue to become wealthier faster.
Years ago I would write really good articles on facebook about specific business matters in my home town, for those in my home town surely it would be fascinating to see how many problems business owners face, surely everyone in my reach wants to know the pitfalls of business in Pattaya, surely everyone in my reach is fascinated by how businesses are grown, developed and destroyed in Pattaya?
Surely everyone wants to know how to make money, improve themselves…. ?
An article can take 30-60 minutes to write but its taken years of practise or knowledge to have that insight, with this uniqueness everyone should be interested? but then the high-quality fascinating articles would get 100 likes…
Then someone I know posts a selfie or a picture of their burger and they get 700 likes…
Some people want more likes for whatever self-esteem issues or low confidence or maybe its just the dopamine rush that they get. So they start learning what makes the most likes and they start posting what they think gets the highest amount, adding more people in the shot, fewer clothes…. what about a scathing attack about something? that can lead down a bad avenue of more scathing attacks.
But… from my article, I would look at the likes and i would have at least 30-40 business owners in my town Pattaya or Bangkok, one of the guys had 20+ restaurants, one of them was the biggest property developer in Thailand. On the outside, the number of likes I had was an embarrassment for most, but knowing what I knew, I had real attention and thought from at least 30 business owners and many more business-minded people that slowly came forward.
What I learnt from this, is stick to your guns when you are posting about something you are passionate about, the majority probably won’t like it, but you are targetting a very small group, people clicking on selfies and food aren’t my target audience, my target audience are busy working, learning or having a constructive life. The selfie posters can enjoy their useless ego-boosting 1000 likes, while I build up my reputation with people that matter to me.
I won’t chase likes, for this reason, I follow many value investor YouTubers with very little subs, but guys don’t pranks will have millions of subs, I understand that everyone enjoys a good prank, but its not going to make you money having such a broad range of interests, races, age and sex.
Laziness is a good guide to what you don’t like doing.
I consider myself lazy when it comes down to certain tasks around the house such as cleaning chores, so we have a maid and a part-time maintenance man and gardener. There are a lot of people around that are labelled lazy by their parents or friends, this makes people carry the identity that they are lazy and its then a self-fulfilling prophecy but why are they lazy?
Laziness is a habit, it can be caused by lack of self-esteem, lack of encouragement from others, lack of discipline caused by low self-confidence, it can be the result of procrastination.
Why are some people lazy?
Some people haven’t found their passion yet, some need some encouragement and some need to break the habit of laziness
How to prevent laziness?
Find jobs/hobbies that you are passionate about, if you have a partner that likes to do the cooking and you don’t mind doing the cleaning, then you can do a deal. I do not want to do many household chores so I don’t do them, but I am happy to work on my projects/business all day because I enjoy it!
Find some encouragement from friends or family by offering them the same in return, or watch 10 minutes of motivational videos on youtube daily.
You can break the habit of laziness by rolling out of bed and taking action, such as exercising, making the bed and hit your list of jobs immediately, avoid places that encourage you to be lazy, hang around with people that are active and motivated.
How do we use laziness to find success?
If you can’t be bothered to do something, that’s probably a good indicator that this isn’t your future, so instead of finding yourself guilty and depressed, you should realise that you need to look for better options for your life. My parents wanted me to work 9-5 as an electrician but I was too lazy when I had my first website I was working on it 16-18 hours a day sometimes!
Facing your fears and living more confidently means stepping out of your comfort zone and changing your long term mindset.
1. The Fear of Uncertainty
Fear is rooted in the unknown, if we knew what was coming ahead, we wouldn’t procrastinate too much.
To overcome this, do more research, speak to someone with more clarity, what are the scenarios that may happen and are they all workable?
Trying new things even if they don’t work out can help you find success, there is alot of hidden risk by not doing anything! Staying in bed all day is risky because you would have lost many opportunities that day or money from working.
2. The Fear Of Change
We are creatures of habit, our routines offer us safetly, we already know the outcome and it reduces the risk we take daily, this is great for survival but not for growth.
You need to put extra work in to make changes, to try new things and the results may be valuable to you or they may not. The challenge is working out the risk, sometimes the risk is only extra time and work.
To overcome the fear of change, you can break things down into smaller steps, just one step at a time slowly will get you there.
3. The Fear Of Rejection
Some people are so afraid of rejection, that it stops them from making any moves at all.
If you have fear of rejection you can ask yourself if its something you are taking personally or you are worried about what someone thinks. Being rejected shouldn’t be taken personally because there are so many other factors at play, maybe you can get used to rejection with smaller things, you can practice that in your life starting straight away. You can start off with some outrageous stuff and you might be surprised at what people agree to.
4. The Fear of Being Judged
Most people put too much weight on what others think, this is good for survival but just remember not everyone has your best interests at heart, also most of them don’t have the experience or the knowledge to judge properly and most people always lean too much towards safety.
Insecurity is what often leads to judgement, those that are ok with making mistakes are the ones that are aware that everyone makes them, especially successful people at business, these types of people have failed there way to success, its a tough path but its the only way.
Opinions only matter if you let it, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent, most people are wrong when it comes down to specialised decisions. When I wanted to buy many bars all my close ones warned me not to, because its easier to put people off and potentially save them.
5. The Fear of Failure
People are scared that others will see them as unsuccessful. There are different ways to define success or failure, you can come up with your own metrics, if you get 1 sale out of 100 and you have had 99 rejections, then you are 1 away from your goal, that is not a failure!
Losing all your money isn’t a failure if you learnt your lesson, especially if you know how to start and do things again differently!
If you have goals that are scaring you, or you are scared at the changes that will happen in your life as you achieve them, but you feel guilty if you aren’t working towards them because you owe it to your family and yourself. Then I have listed some guilt-free ideas to push those goals ahead while you feel like you are working towards them.
Sadly I mastered this subject before I got to the stage where I am
Seminars – these feel great because you are learning from guys that seem to be the best? You will learn minimal amounts while you are given more tools to procrastinate in upsells, if you keep paying, you can have more guilt-free reasons to push your goals further away. If you are lucky the seminars are in a different country, you can add on more days to push your work away, you will feel very good about travelling all those days to help to achieve your goals.
Courses – downloading every course you can find on various subjects is a great way to push starting your goals into the future, providing you are learning, you don’t need to feel guilty, because you are on a path (a very long path to finish every course) but at least your not watching series on Netflix.
Read books – the best books are 15-21 hours long, make sure you listen to them at normal speed if you are on the audiobooks, in fact, you should read them only because you can’t get anything else done, which means you still have daily tasks to complete after you have finished.
Family Outings – Going out to every family outing/invite is definitely a guilt-free way of pushing your goals away, forget seeing them all less often with focused high-quality time, you can hang out for hours and watch TV knowing that you are a good family participant
Making more plans – If your goals are getting too close, many you need to sit down and make better plans, planning your goals again and again is a great way of working towards your goals but not doing them
Productivity – Make sure you overkill learning about productivity, there is very few arguments that can prove you are not working towards your goals by finetuning your productivity, just in case you do run out of things to do on my list and time to work on the goals are getting near.
Motivation – we need to master the art of motivation, learning about motivation is the best way to feel good because you need that motivation to watch more motivation and productivity videos and read more courses.
Look for shiny objects from marketers, look out for promises of easy fixes to achieve your goals, there is no doubt this will relieve you from your guilt of not engaging in deep work towards your goals. And you will feel good with yourself about investing in yourself.
Learn about Journals, checklists, in fact you can go on a guilt-free shopping spree here with journals while feeling like you are one step closer towards working on your projects.
Once I was able to grow my company big enough to have enough staff to cover most of my day to day tasks and delegate more out, I am now able to do minimal amount of work and work on company growth which includes educating myself, planning new job roles and implementing concepts.
This has meant that I have been learning a lot for the last 5 years at least, I like to learn the following subjects
SEO, Internet Marketing,
Sales and Marketing
Motivation, productivity, self-development
Psychology regarding employing, helping people grow, team building
My Journey Of Learning and the costs.
I started an MBA which was around 5000-10,000 USD (Bottom level but good if you need a certification)
I realised that I was learning so much stuff that I didn’t need to learn, I had no purpose for a certificate, I was suffering anxiety because I had deadlines and articles to complete that I didn’t want to write. It was a total waste of time and money, I learnt far more online that I could really implement in my businesses.
Expensive Courses 500-1000 USD per course
I started becoming a course junkie, shiny objects and false promises are very appealing when you really want to learn quickly. Alot of these courses are good if you don’t have time or you need to learn stuff but you don’t know what you need to learn, there are lots of categories that we want to master but its hard to search for things we don’t know exist. There are lots of marketers out there offering the world, telling you that you are one payment and one click away from the success that you ever wanted.
Cheap Courses 10-99 USD per course
There are plenty of cheap courses on Udemy, skillshare and many others however people think they are aren’t as good because they are cheaper, but think about how much they are getting paid to write these courses, 10,000 downloads at 10 USD is more than 10 sales at 1000 USD. Also, people pay extra to be in the masterminds that are always empty with little value to offer… but the good thing about paying alot for a course is that you will definitely finish it! I recommend these courses because they are so cheap and saves you time.
Audible.com 14.95 USD per book
I found Audible around 2 years ago and I purchased over 600 books, some of the books can be 7-15 hours long but I managed to listen to many of them at 1.55x to 2x speed, I am fine listening to them if I am walking, driving or travelling but sometimes I am not traveling or driving. When I started these books 2 years ago, my life started changing rapidly, I started feeling the compounding effect with education and I felt so stupid and embarrassed about my past, in fact I was learning so fast, every week I looked back and I was embarrassed about how stupid or ignorant I had been in fact I learnt not to judge people so much because its easy to assume everyone knows what we do, but a lot of people don’t educate themselves or adapt. I put a list of some of the books I read on the main index page of my site, but I gave up listing them.
Audiobooks/books are better and much cheaper than most courses but you are on your own, there is no community, interaction, it may be more time consuming and harder to find the info you need quickly.
Blinklist 4.99 USD unlimited per month!
Blinklist was a very good app that I used to get summaries of books, my time has become more valuable and although I do enjoy listening to audiobooks while I am driving, it uses up way too much time, blinklist has the book shortened into 15 minutes. The subscription fee was very little and they were adding 20 new books every month.
What do I use now mostly? (Top-level learning)
Youtube Channels FREE
For those that say they don’t have the money to get the right education and believe everything is behind a paywall, I have seen a lot of courses that YouTubers have created and most/all of there content is on various videos on their channels, they need to teach to tease people into buying their courses. This just means that they end up giving all their content away but it takes more time to learn it. There are tons of channels teaching out there without courses, they have other ways of making money such as other upsells, business promotion or just carrying youtube adverts.
I have followed many YouTubers for a long time and most of them are just getting information from the books that they read or other content they have found.
Book Summaries on Youtube FREE (Ninja level learning)
The next level after this long and expensive journey is to apply the Pareto rule to your self-education, the difference between a 7 hour book and a 15 minute book summary on youtube, is usually a bunch of stories and evidence backing up why you need to believe the ideas that they are teaching you, if you are open to learning and you have education in many areas already you are already feeling the effect from compounding, a new book or concept can fit in with all your other education and less explaining is needed. So we don’t need 7 hours to explain an idea, skill or concept. If you are learning a category like marketing, you are better off getting 5-10 book summaries of 5-1o books than reading one book.
You can always look at 2-3 book summaries if you wanted to, but it’s better to learn all the key points and skip the rest unless you really need to drill down and convince yourself.
The next level of learning I will write about later
So what is worth paying for?
For someone’s time to teach you specific info to save your time
For a community behind a paywall
For someone to make you accountable
For someone that can help you connect with the right people
Any courses that will save you time but don’t let price confuse you
Seminars are only good for networking or if you need energy (Tony Robbins)
I recently read the book Deep Work by Cal Newport. Cal defines deep work as “Professional Activities Performed in a state of distraction-free concentration that pushes your cognitive abilities to the limit” I have practised deep work without knowing when I did university 100% of dissertations in 4-6 hours the day before they were due while other people it took them months to complete
Deep work creates new value, improves your skills which is hard for others to replicate.
Deep work allows us to master hard things quickly and produce at an elite level in quality and speed.
Deep work allows you do have several projects in progress together without compromising each other.
Deep work keeps your mind busy away from thinking about problems which keeps depression at bay, gives you deep satisfaction and a deep meaningful life.
Neuroscientists have found that intense periods of focus causes myelin to develop in relevant areas of the brain, myelin is a white tissue that develops around neurons and allows brain cells to fire faster and cleaner. When we practise deep work, we are training our brains to fire more efficiently and effectively.
The brain upgrade we get from deep work allows us to connect ideas together and to create solutions.
Deep work is increasingly rare because it requires our undivided attention which is difficult in today’s social media culture whereby people are expecting instant responses. Employers put people in open offices so they can work together and be seen, but it stops deep work from happening. Deep work is increasingly valuable in today’s world because we need to produce great things now to stand out from the crowd in a global society.
When we switch from tasks A to Task B our attention doesn’t immediately follow and we leak some of it. Your attention is divided for a while, so we need to practise full focus on one task at a time.
Schedule distractions – write down the next time you can allow your distractions.
Start deep work by making it a habit, having them scheduled daily which gives you no choice but to do it, its best to have a recurring time, such as early morning. Beginners at deep work can start with 1 hour, masters can do up to 4 hours.
Have a daily shutdown routine each day to ensure we aren’t tired, write down unfinished tasks, action plan, when you get things off your mind you can shut down completely.
Allow yourself a break to relax after deep work
What is Shallow work? It is work that is noncognitively demanding, performed while distracted and doesn’t create new value and its very easy to replicate. Shallow work should be avoided.